Note: this was written on November 8, 2017 but I always want my husband to edit my posts.
“When Joseph’s brothers saw that their father was dead, they said, “What if Joseph bears a grudge against us and pays us back in full for all the wrong which we did to him!” So they sent a message to Joseph, saying, “Your father charged before he died, saying, ‘Thus you shall say to Joseph, “Please forgive, I beg you, the transgression of your brothers and their sin, for they did you wrong.”’ And now, please forgive the transgression of the servants of the God of your father.” And Joseph wept when they spoke to him. Then his brothers also came and fell down before him and said, “Behold, we are your servants.” But Joseph said to them, “Do not be afraid, for am I in God’s place? As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive. So therefore, do not be afraid; I will provide for you and your little ones.” So he comforted them and spoke kindly to them” (Genesis 50:15-21, NASB).
As many of you know, if you follow my Facebook page or Instagram account, I was hospitalized a couple of weeks ago for a bowel blockage and a mass was discovered on my CT scans.
I had to go to an oncologist even though they don’t think it’s cancer. Nobody suspects cancer. This doctor just knows how to go about this. The exam went well. The doctor was great at talking me through it. The nurses and my husband were also wonderful at talking to me and distracting me so I could relax as much as possible which isn’t easy with cerebral palsy and you’re nervous and having uncomfortable things being done to you.
I thank God for legal medical marijuana; my anxiety level would have been debilitating without it. However, I was very anxious nonetheless. My heart rate was 117 (a special “sign from Heaven from my mother-in-law) and then dropped to 115 so it helped me not get any worse.
The doctor showed us both CT scans and the mass in question.
He gently used his finger to probe the area and confirmed that the mass was still there. I felt a little pain when he pushed on it but I’m not sure if it was from the mass itself or from me spasming because of the probing. So I will have to get a MRI as an outpatient (with sedation due to my severe cerebral palsy and spasms).
Unfortunately, it’ll have to be done at the hospital so that the anesthesiologist can keep a close eye on me with my cerebral palsy and asthma, so an “open MRI” is not an option.
My husband can stay with me until I’m put to sleep for it and will be right back when I am done. I shouldn’t have to be so sedated that I will need intubation. As of now, the MRI scheduling is still being worked out, but I want to get it over with so they’re going to try to get me in sooner. I said any day but the 17th because I NEED ink therapy!
Tattoos really are one of God’s ways of bringing me peace and everyone at the shop have been very supportive.
We don’t know what the mass is but the MRI will tell us if it’s benign or malignant. The doctor said it is a soft tissue mass. After the MRI, he will determine if I need to have a biopsy. He’s trying to take it slow and not go invasive with me unless it’s necessary.
My friend with severe cerebral palsy said she has many benign masses from having multiple bouts of bowel blockage, so hopefully this will be just a benign mass, too. We’re trying to think positive and pray.
Walking through the cancer institute made me sad. All those people are fighting cancer. I’m NOT going to be one of them. Please Lord.
I wish this were over so I/we can keep working on getting back to a better place emotionally. Our anxiety has been really awful and I met with a Christian counselor. She confirmed that God isn’t doing any of this to us and that satan LOVES messing with us when we are down. She affirmed that everything we’re feeling is normal considering what all we’ve been through the past 2 years and God is right here even when we don’t feel Him. She’s walked this darkness too.
I can’t imagine what it must feel like for children who have been raised in Christian families where they are taught that God wants them hurt every time they are “bad.” Even though my relationship with God hasn’t been the best lately, I know He’s helping and comforting us.
God is using this for good! He turns everything that satan means for our harm into good. I don’t understand His ways but I know He is love and that life just happens. We must teach our children that God never hurts us!
Jesus wept. Jesus pleaded for the cup to pass from Him so He wouldn’t have to suffer and die on the cross even though He knew that that was what He was here to do and would go through with it because of His great love for us. Before He died, He cried out loudly, “My God, my God! Why have You forsaken Me?” It’s ok to feel anger, anxiety, pain, fear, loneliness, confusion, and despair. Jesus felt it.
May we teach our children that God suffers right along with us. He is a wonderful God Who comforts and loves us. He is not the Author of suffering.
Please keep praying for us.
On a happier note, my husband and I celebrated 19th anniversary of togetherness-dating and married years combined! It doesn’t seem possible! I’m grateful to God that He gave me a WONDERFUL guy who loves me NO matter what and CHOOSES to keep caring for me and loving me 24/7!